Sunday, August 12, 2018
I had no idea... part 2
Tuesday, July 11, 2017
Our Adoption Journey: Once We Are Home...
4. Don't pay attention to him. Yes, that's right, please ignore Carter (AKA: cutest kid ever). It might seem strange and inappropriate, but it is best to pay him very little attention when you see us in public. For the first few months that he is with us, he will be on sensory overload. Just the sights, smells, and sounds, alone can be very overwhelming to a child from an orphanage background. He will need time to adjust. And paying extra attention to him can be both overwhelming and confusing. He needs to know that we are the most important people in his life. He needs to bond with us.
I know this is hard. Believe me. I have watched friends walk these same pathways. I know how much you love Carter. Please be patient. This won't last forever. In a few months, when we know that Carter is forming strong attachments to us, we will (very) slowly introduce friends and family into his small circle.
Thank you SO MUCH for loving Carter and respecting our boundaries. I know they will be strange and awkward. We wouldn't do it if it wasn't necessary. We love you all so much!!
Because we know that you are the most WONDERFUL people in the world, here are something things you can do to help. (If you feel the need. Seriously, no pressure!)
5. Pray, diligently. Pray for Carter to overcome the grief and trauma of his journey into our family. Pray for our family to bond quickly and securely. Pray that Rob and I are able to display the love and grace of Christ to little Carter.
6. Make/bring food. Over the first few weeks home we will probably be struggling with some major jetlag and possible sickness from the long trip. We would love and welcome any food/meals that you want to provide. I am sure we will be too exhausted to want to do any cooking when we get home.
7. Laundry/cleaning/yard work. This sounds silly, but sometimes the best thing you can do for an adoptive family is take care of some of the daily tasks that we are too tired/jetlagged/sick to take care of in the first few days that we are home.
If you're interested in reading more about cocooning, there is a fabulous article on one of my favorite adoption blogs: http://www.nohandsbutours.com/2015/09/09/cocooning/
Thursday, July 6, 2017
Our Adoption Journey, Step 9: Article 5 and the next steps
What is an Article 5? First, a (brief) history/overview of international adoption. In the 1990's the Hague Adoption Convention was developed to protect children during the process of an international adoption. As a result, any adoption of children between the ratifying countries (now 96) includes safeguards for children and a structured procedural process. The last step of the process is the Article 5: a letter from the US Consulate to the foreign central authority (CCCWA in China) to confirm that the adoptive parents are eligible to adopt and that the child is eligible to immigrate to the US and reside there permanently.
What does it mean? It means that our travel is coming SOON! We still don't have travel dates, but this was our last step of approval. Now, we wait for the CCCWA to issue us a Travel Approval. (This happens fairly quickly after they receive our Article 5.) After our travel approval, we will know our travel dates and travel to China within 3 weeks. Travel is coming shortly! HOORAY!!!!
In the meantime, pray for patience and wisdom. Pray that God will prepare our hearts for the struggles and joys that we will face while we are in China and after we bring Carter home. God is good. We are so excited to see Him working out His love throughout our adoption journey!
Sunday, June 11, 2017
Our Adoption Journey: All. The. Feels.
Monday, June 5, 2017
Our Adoption Journey, Step 8: LOA & Immigration Approval
What is the time frame? The next steps should take between between 8-11 weeks, until we travel. Right now, however, the averages are running a little faster and we expect to be in China at the end of July or the beginning of August.
What are the next steps? There are so many. So, so many. But, briefly, we are waiting on immigration. We need the US to approve Carter's immigration to become a US citizen. We need to get travel visas for ourselves for the adoption. Once it's received, we will send our immigration approval to the CCCWA and get approved for travel!
It's all so exciting and exhausting, but we're finally here!
Wednesday, April 5, 2017
Our Adoption Journey, Step 7: Care Package
1. Shirt: We bought him at cute, short-sleeved shirt, size 3T. Hopefully it will fit. His measurements were all over the place. So, we guessed. Realistically, we will probably never see him in this shirt--but that's okay. He needs a shirt, so he gets a shirt. Besides, if it doesn't fit him, I can hope it will be worn by another little boy that needs a good shirt.
2. Photobook: In the corner of the picture, you can see our book. It is filled with pages of our family, friends, house and puppy. Most importantly, pictures of us, telling him that we love him.
3. Wooden trains: I can't tell you how fun it was to shop for small, simple toys. We have waited so many years to buy things for our child. To get him something that might put a smile on his face. We labeled these: "to share with your friends". Why aren't they just for him? After 8 months on our adoption journey, our hearts have broken for orphans around the world. How will his friends feel, knowing Carter is going to be adopted, but that they may never be? We bought more, identical trains for him to have at home. These toys are for him to share and will stay at the welfare institute. We cannot adopt them all, but we can love them. And send them things that will put a smile on their face.
4. Dum-Dums: Because everyone needs suckers. We couldn't fit the entire bag in that tiny box, so we put some in a Ziploc bag for him to share with his friends.
5. SD card: For the nannies and caregivers to take pictures of Carter and his friends. We hope that they will take pictures of him and everyone he knows at the orphanage. I know that he will treasure those pictures for years to come. Pictures of those who loved him before we could. We thought about sending a disposable camera, but we are hopeful that the orphanage has a digital camera (and maybe it's more convenient for them?). If we send another care package, we might send a disposable camera, just in case.
6. Letter to the orphanage (not pictured): Our agency wrote out a letter, in Mandarin, explaining that we love Carter and that we are coming for him soon. We asked that they take pictures of Carter and his friends. We asked that they let him know that we are his family and love him until we can get there. We also included a copy of our pre-approval from the CCCWA.
Somehow, we fit it all into a tiny little box. Seriously, I'm not sure how.
Sunday, April 2, 2017
Our Adoption Journey: LID, DTC, and all the other letters...
In China adoption, there are so many different acronyms. Why? Because there are so many, detailed steps to international adoption. So, below, I have compiled a list of all the acronyms that we might have used (or will in the future) as part of our adoption.
CCAI: Chinese Children Adoption International. Our adoption agency. It is one of the largest China adoption agencies in the US. They have been around for over 20 years and assisted in more than 10,000 adoptions of children from China. For more information, click HERE.
CCCWA: China Center for Children's Welfare & Adoption. The government agency in China that is in charge of orphan care. It is the agency that will (hopefully) approve our adoption and our travel to China to adopt our little boy.
USCIS: United States Citizenship & Immigration Services. The US government agency that oversees citizenship and immigration. Because Carter will be a US citizen as soon as he in on US soil, we have background checks and visa approval through USCIS.
LOI: Letter Of Intent. The letter that we wrote to the CCCWA, indicating our desire to adopt our specific child. It included specific information about him and our promise to love and provide for him, to the best of our ability.
PA: Pre-Approval. Following our LOI, the CCCWA pre-approved our adoption of Carter. This happens before they read through our entire dossier. After we received our pre-approval, we were able to share pictures of Carter to our friends and family. Although it is not the official approval, it is an exciting step, to be allowed to share pictures and (limited) information about him with those who love us (and him) and are praying for us all.
DTC: Dossier to China. Our dossier paperwork has been sent to the CCCWA in China. Usually within 2 weeks, it is logged into the system. And, if there are no concerns with our paperwork, we can be (hopefully) be approved in 2-4 months.
LID: Logged-In Dossier. Our paperwork has been logged into the CCCWA. Nothing has been officially translated, read or approved. This date, however, is very important because everything that happens for our adoption usually hinges on this date. Approval, travel, etc. is always based on this date.
LOA: Letter of Approval. The CCCWA has read through our dossier and approves of our adoption. WE GET TO ADOPT!!! This, of course, is one of the most important steps. (Don't get excited, it hasn't happened yet!)
TA: Travel Approval. About 2-3 months after our LOA, the CCCWA will usually approve us for travel. At that time, we are only 7-10 days from going to China. This hinges on travel visas for us and for Carter, approved by both the US and the CCCWA.